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  • Writer's pictureDominic Sander

Should You Allow Your Teen to Date Online?

Updated: Oct 7, 2022

Today's youngsters are the first generation to have grown up with the option of finding romance online. Many youngsters like the option to avoid unpleasant face-to-face meetings through internet dating. While there are numerous advantages to online dating, there are also risks to be aware of. Dating partners who take advantage of teenagers are among the potential threats.




Many dating apps restrict their users to those aged 18 and over, yet some teenagers create profiles on restricted sites under false ages. And there may be predators out there hunting for underage daters. Many teenagers find it difficult to negotiate these connections, and if they join up privately, they may be hesitant to seek assistance if they get in over their heads or have a negative experience.

However, not every potential date is a predator, and not every online romance is the same. Some require merely online conversations and phone calls, while others require in-person interactions. Some teenagers may find good relationships online. The goal is to evaluate whether your child is prepared for this experience and, if so, to assist them in safely searching for love online.

The Positive Aspects of Online Dating



Teens who are hesitant and awkward about engaging in face-to-face interactions with a potential love partner can find comfort in the virtual realm. A hesitant youngster, for example, may approach new people in an online chat room with confidence. A teen with low self-esteem, for example, may find comfort behind a screen.

Teens who believe they have been labelled negatively by their peers, or who feel they do not fit in at school, may find like-minded peers on the Internet. An online community or a special online friendship can help some kids cope with the volatility of puberty.

A harmless online romance is possible. Teens who solely communicate by phone and the internet are not at risk of becoming sexually active. As a result, many parents prefer their kid to date online.

The Dangers of Online Dating

Teens may also be duped into disclosing personal information, which could lead to their identities being stolen. In more serious circumstances, they may be persuaded to attend potentially harmful in-person meetings.

Unfortunately, predators frequently take advantage of the teen's trusting disposition. A person claiming to be a 16-year-old football star from a nearby town could be an adult attempting to prey on an innocent teenager. Unfortunately, the majority of teenagers believe that such deception could never happen to them.

Many of the same dating sites for teen are used adults. Tinder, for example, allows minors to use their service. As a result, kids are frequently involved in chats with adults hoping for romance.

While a 15-year-old may think talking to a 25-year-old is "cool," a romantic engagement with such an age difference can have major emotional—and perhaps legal—repercussions..

A teen's in-person social interaction may be limited by an internet romance. A youngster who has a boyfriend in another state may choose to skip out on social events such as a dance or a party in order to stay at home and communicate with her boyfriend online. This can have major consequences for a teen's social life.

Online dating carries some of the same risks as in-person dating. Teens may be emotionally abused by a romantic partner on the other side of the world.



Talk to Your Teen About Online Dating

Talk to your teen about the realities of online dating. Many blogs and adolescent magazines extol the virtues of finding love online. However, kids must also be aware of the negative aspects of internet dating.

Telling your teen not to talk to strangers online is unrealistic. Teens who have social media profiles are more likely to form online friendships that could lead to romance. Even if your kid isn't looking for love on the internet, it could happen.

Discuss safety concerns and develop clear social media tactics and online guidelines. Allow your teen, for example, to meet someone from the internet without first discussing it with you. And, if you're going to let your kid meet someone in person, do some preliminary research on who the person is and chaperone the meeting.


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